Yes, I’m Going to My 30th High School Reunion
by Monica Santi
I had a great time at my 25th college reunion last summer, and I look forward to my 30th high school reunion in a few weeks. I am surprised by how many people have no desire to attend their reunion. Reasons people say they don’t want to go to their reunion often include statements like…
There is no one I want to see.
I’m in touch with everyone who means something to me.
I am unemployed or underemployed.
I don’t have the time or money.
I’ve gained too much weight, lost too much hair…
I don’t want to explain why I am single, divorced, have no children…
I think what it really boils down to is that people feel they will be judged, compared to others, and will fall short in others people’s mind (but probably most likely their own). Like most folks, I struggle with insecurities of the past and the present.
I have no desire to repeat high school. I wasn’t popular. I was an orchestra geek. (And yes, I went to band orchestra camp.) During my sophomore and junior years, I sported glasses with lenses as thick as Coke bottles; braces with rubber bands strung from the top row of my teeth to the bottom; and the pièce de résistance, a back brace to correct a bad case of scoliosis. So I certainly don’t see my reunion as a chance to relive the “good ole days.”
Since high school I have lived a good life. Not a remarkable one. I stay in touch with a handful of friends from high school. So, why am I going to my reunion?
I look forward to seeing people who I have known since childhood. I know we are all older, but I will take comfort in the realization that the good parts of people haven’t changed. I will marvel at the feeling that I don’t feel the age am I, and while I don’t feel 18 either, I feel closer to that than 47. I will reconnect with people and know that my life is richer for it. I will spend time with people who I do see in between reunions, but not as often as I would like. I will look back on the weekend with a sense of gratitude for the past and the present.
For these reasons I’m going to my 30th high school reunion.